I really believe most people out there are good people and do not dislike trans men or women simply for who they are. Most people don't care what's between my legs or what my name used to be. Still not everyone understands that some questions are just really personal and sometimes we don't want to answer them. It's kind of ironic that many times when they ask us questions they are framed in a way such as "I know this is a personal question..." or sometimes even "I know it's none of my business...", but still many people ask. I don't personaly think most mean any harm, its just trans people are myterious and misundetstood. In fact if I think it will help open a discussion I may go ahead and bite simply to help someone understand. In this case I almost always frame the answer in a way that highlights why most trans people would not answer or even be offended.
I've been asked all sorts of questions related to my old name, my surgery, relationships, and everything that you can think of in between But the most frequent one for me has always been my old name.
I used to tell people that I don't tell people at my old name was because its frame is me as that person and Katherine is simply a Persona on top of it. Well to some extent this is still the case I don't really think that holds true as much anymore since most people who know me now never knew the person I used to be so that reference is really not there, it's simply just a name. Still to me it's irrelevant information and I try to convey that point if I do discuss it. What does it matter what my name was? Steve, Chris, Bob, Tony, Aaron? How is that relevant to who I am as a person now?
We've all seen posts about me how to be a trans ally and what are and are not acceptable questions, but people still ask.
What are some of the crazy things that you've been asked? Have you answered these questions?